Breastfeeding, Babies and Birth

Trust your body

As a new mom, first time in general or first time breastfeeding, it’s pretty normal to question the process and to question your body. I think just about every mother does it at some point or another. I still find my self wondering from time to time if this or that is normal. If you do this,  I promise you, you aren’t alone!

When my son was born I got in touch with my lactation consultant atleast 7 or 8 times the first week. She always reassured me until the next “problem” in which i would reach out again and she would tell me everything was fine. Why as a new mother do we do this to ourselves? Why question something your body knows how to do naturally?

When I was pregnant with my daughter, I went the whole pregnancy with no doubt in my mind that I would do it naturally without the aid of an epidural but low and behold I was convinced that I would not be able to “handle the pain” and was told I would need an epidural. I let someone take control of my body and my fate. When she was born I was told she needed supplemented formula for no good reason and therefore ultimately led to my breastfeeding journey demise. Had I just let my body do what it knows how to do, and not allow others to dictate my success perhaps things would have been different.

So this post serves as a friendly reminder to not stress over the little things and to let your body do its job, to enjoy this precious and short time with your baby. It’s easy to get caught up in thinking you need to boost your supply, make more milk, you cabt handle the pain, you need to feed more often or the baby needs to gain more weight. I promise you, your doing the best you can do and the best for your baby, let that be enough.



OAT MAMA Lactation Granola Bars Review

This past week I had the opportunity to try out some lactation goodies from the sweet ladies at Oat Mama and I thought it required an honest review from a nursing momma, so here it is, I hope you enjoy!

Kristy and Eliza, the faces behind Oat Mama, sent a variety pack which included: Apple Cinnamon Raisin with Fenugreek,  Chocolate Almond Coconut, Nut and Berry, and Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip. After tasting each one, I would have to say that the chocolate almond coconut was my favorite. When I received my order in the mail I was certain that the peanut butter chocolate chip would be my favorite and as delicious as it was, the chocolate almond coconut still took the number 1 spot. All of the flavors were good, however, and this is certainly a product I would not only recommend to others but would purchase myself again.

After a thorough taste test I thought I should see how they worked in terms of increasing supply. I am happy to report that I,indeed, saw an increase after consuming. I personally have a decent yet regular supply but would like to increase my freezer stash so I have been adding random pumping sessions into my routine on a bi-weekly basis. I typically only get an ounce or two total for both breast.

I consumed a bar, nuts and berry, around 7 pm a few evenings ago. I waited around an hour (i had to nurse my son in this hour time frame) after before pumping and here were my results:


This isn’t the best picture but there was a total of 2 1/2 ounces approximately.

The next morning I thought I’d try again, I fed my son around 7 am ate the bar then pumped around 8:15 a.m. and here were my results:


My results were just a little of 3 oz total for both breast. In addition to the increase I can visibly see from pumping I notice that after I eat this snack, I feel a slight bit fuller which I find impressive for being 11 months postpartum.

As for the nutritional value of the products, overall they are pretty healthy.  While a little high in calorie, they are filled with several nurtients so your getting a good quality and most importantly healthy snack or breakfast item. While reading the list of ingredients I notice that several organic items were used which I also enjoyed.

For mommas with food sensitivities or little ones with them, these snacks are dairy free, wheat free, soy free, and egg free and although made in a facility that processes peanuts, the ingredients itself are gluten free.

So please, head on over to and order some for yourself! You won’t be disappointed!



Sometimes during birth, things don’t always go as planned. I think that it goes without saying that you need to be prepared for anything. Just because of the unknown, don’t let it keep you from having your birth, your way (as long as you and baby are okay, of course!)

I delivered my daughter in 2011, when I made my ob/gyn appointment to confirm the pregnancy i basically just picked a number at random. I didn’t form any type of relationship with my doctor and in fact, didn’t even meet her until several months into my pregnancy.  I was told I would need a c section for the classic reason “the baby is too big for your body” although when she arrived was only 7 pounds 11 ounces. Until the week before she was born i had planned to give birth naturally but my doctor managed to use scare tactics to talk me out of it. At 40 weeks on the dot I was forced into an unnecessary induction, laid on my back for almost 24 straight hours and pushed for 3 1/2 of them. I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t drink, needless to say, I had no energy whatsoever. After the longest 3 1/2 hours of my life my daughter happy and healthy finally arrived into the world and all was right.

So naturally, because this doctor brought my baby into the world I should feel happy, thankful and appreciative and to a degree i do, however a healthy baby doesn’t mean that I don’t have birth regret. Had I not let someone take advantage of the fact I was a first time mom and had no clue what to expect or what I was doing perhaps alot would have been different. So it brings me to wonder, just because I have a healthy baby does that mean I don’t have the right to have these feelings? Well of course I can have these feelings, I am human being and it’s only natural. This exprience only led me to strive for a better one my next go around and now that it’s said and done, it was a success!

Honestly, until I became pregnant with my son less than 3 years later I hadn’t thought much about my first exprience and how wrong it really felt. I switched to the amazing midwife who delivered my son, at 24 weeks and I often wonder could I have experienced the same fate had I not have switched? One reason in particular that I loved her so much, right off the bat she told me she wouldn’t induce until after 41 weeks (if all was good) which let me know that we were on the same page. He was born naturally at 38 1/2 weeks and it was truely a rewarding exprience. I am so thankful my midwife worked with me to exprience an amazing birth, one that was done the way I had intended.



Don’t be afraid to be you!


A few weeks ago I was at a function among 60 people give or take for my child’s school, I was chatting with my mother when a friend came up to me and said “you’ll be happy to know that there is a mother breastfeeding upfront! I couldn’t wait to tell you!” These are words that I could never forget. If someone, and not someone I even see often at that, sees the goodness that I choose to represent and associate it with me, I must be doing something right.

It makes me so incredibly happy that because I talk about the things I love and matter to me, people associate me with them. If you don’t like something don’t worry about it, focus on the thigs that matter.

You see, it’s a common misconception, just because I am a “lactivist” doesn’t mean I’m anti formula. I am proud breastfeeding but more importantly, I am pro fed. Just because I am an advocate for breastfeeding doesn’t mean I spend my time bashing the other options, it means I choose to talk about something I love,  something that is important to me.

If you feel strongly about something, don’t be afraid to express yourself. There isn’t anything wrong with letting your opinion be heard! Don’t be afraid to have the unpopular opinion and don’t give in to your beliefs just because others don’t approve.


I will wrap you up in my love

The day after we brought my son home from the hospital was mothers day. It was such a special day as my gift was an 8 1/2 pound beautiful bundle of joy that I literally couldn’t take my eyes off,y other gift sat beside me in awe of our new family member.

I knew that when I was pregnant I wanted to give babywearing another try. I wore my daughter when she a younger and didn’t have a very secure carrier so it made matters a little challenging. Around 2 months pregnant I bought the highly anticipated tula, a soft structure buckle carrier and never looked back. I am postive that my husband probably thought I was crazy for buying such an expensive baby carrier when 1) I didn’t know the sex of the baby yet and 2) the baby wouldn’t even be here for another 7 months! Since I babysat at the time I thought it would really come in handy!

I randomly wore my little baby friend over the next few months until it was no longer comfortable to do so, he (somewhat) enjoyed, and I was able to get some of my household chores done in the meantime. I considered it a win win.

I was cruising through the local yardsale sites and came across a previously loved sleepy wrap, the condition was great and the price was too so I couldn’t help but to scoop it up! I picked the wrap up the next day, washed it and placed it with the other things for the baby. It stayed in its given place until mothers day, a day of sweet memories like no other.

I spent around 45 minutes that Sunday watching and researching over and over again tutorials on how to put on my sleepy wrap. I was nervous about the safety of my sweet newborn and needed to get it right. After several attempts, near tears (thanks postpartum hormones!) I finally got it down and got my baby in there! I can’t explain to you how much success I felt as the happy tears began to roll down my face, it was a big accomplishment!

I wore my sweet little squish for an afternoon stroll around the neighborhood, visiting my mother, husband’s grandmother and mother-in-law. It was such a joy being able to hold my baby so close as well as having my hands free to hold my daughters hand as we walked. She enjoyed the walk as much as I did.

I couldn’t believe how easy and convenient babywearing was, I found myself wondering why I didn’t give this a better go with my daughter because it definitely would have came in handy! I really couldn’t get enough snuggles from my sweetheart and feeling every breath that came from his little body and feeling his heart beat on my chest is something I can’t even put into words. With all my other blog topics, they are all about bonding, birth is bonding exprience, breastfeeding, and without a doubt in mind so is babywearing.



(In this photograph,  we brought the sleepy wrap for one last ride before donating to another mom, he was a little big but still snuggly as ever! )

Milk sharing

When I was not a mom yet, I will admit, i was probably pretty ignorant to alot of issues that motherhood presents. One in particular is milk sharing. If you  would have ask me 5 years ago maybe even 3 (after my daughter was born!) If I knew what milk sharing was, I can say with all honesty that i would have had no clue.

Since I didn’t breastfeed my daughter for long, I can admit that I didn’t know much about breastmilk in general. I tried pumping but looking back now, truely didn’t put in time or effort it required.

When my son was about 6 months old I can across a mother in need of donor milk, I didn’t really know her expect that we had friends and generally the same interests in common. I had a decent freezer stash and remember thinking, “it would be really nice to help her out!”. I went to my freezer stash, and dug out 60  ounces. The mother would I was donating to was out of town and traveling in to the area, I met a family member of hers and the deed was done.

I really can’t even begin to tell you how I felt in that moment. I beamed with pride that I not only provide the nourishment for my own child but helped feed another, even if it was only a few days. I beleive its goes without saying that I didn’t donate for the credit, but sometimes in the shuffle of life especially in parenthood it’s easy to feel unappreciated. I know that this mother genuinely was thankful for this gift of liquid gold and knowing that it helped her daughter was really special moment  for me. Anyone who has ever had or wanted to pump knows how much time, dedication and love goes into each and every pumping session, and it certainly isn’t something that comes easy for all lactating mothers.

It is truly a a selfless act to donate and as weird as it may sound, I offer it up to any mother in need. Don’t get me wrong, I do not think that there is anything wrong with formula or giving it to your baby, I also think that’s it’s great for whoever needs it for whatever reason. With that being said, I think that’s why milk sharing is so important. If you have the extra supply and the means, I promise milk sharing will be a rewarding exprience for all parties involved.  You can do it informally or privately, through an organization such as Eats on Feets and Human Milk for Human Babies and a more formal setting such as a milk bank.


Who is your backbone?

As mentioned, i was very adimant to succeed in my breastfeeding journey. In order to do this, I allowed no bottles or formula into my home in efforts to really dedicate to the commitment I made not only to myself but to my son.

He was a champ, took the breast immediately and although a shallow latch made for some sore nipples, with the help of my trusty lactation consultant and midwife, that issue was quickly resolved. I couldn’t thank her enough for not only bringing my sweet angel into the world but for being my biggest support in regards to my pregnancy, my natural delivery, and breastfeeding.

As a new mother support is crucial in whatever choices you make whether it be natural or epidural, breast or formula, or any of the other hundreds of the decisions you will make in your lifetime as a parent. Supporters can wear any hats, a nurse, a doctor, a parent, a partner, a friend and the list can go on and on.

Your supporter or supporter system is your back bone, your hand to hold, shoulder to cry on, the peanut butter to your jelly and so on. You should feel comfortable leaning on this person of these people especially when you need them, and what better time of need than when you are about to bring another human being into this world.

Whoever you chose for support, reach out and give them thanks. Let your support system know that your glad they are around.


My first post

Let me start by introducing myself, my name is lindsey. I am a mother of two, wife, and an all things baby related advocate. I have a strong passion for birth, babies and breastfeeding and all things in relation to. It only seemed right to name my blog, The B Word, an ode to my favorite things.

So who am I? I am a mother of a four year old and a 10 month old. Being a mother is hands down the best thing I have ever done in my life. I am a stay at home mom, so my day literally begins and ends with my children but i truely wouldn’t have it any other way. As much as I whole heartedly love being a mother and enjoy my children to the fullest, i am ready to delve into my professional being and find my passion outside of the home.

I graduated college in 2014 when my daughter was 2 1/2 years old. i obtained an associates degree in early childhood as well as a bachelor’s degree in family and consumer sceince. I have been working with children since 2010 and I have been a nanny since 2012. After graduating, I knew that I wanted to be involved in some shape or form with children but I wasnt sure what my exact calling was.

In may of 2015 my sweet and beautiful son arrived into the world at 2:09 am after what most, including myself, would consider a textbook natural (hospital) childbirth. I knew, without any doubt, I wanted to breastfeed from the moment I become pregnant. I didn’t breastfeed long with my daughter and it was one of my biggest regrets. I was determined to make it work, to give my child the best start to life. My determination and drive to give my child this start was all the motivation I needed for my success. I realized a few months after his birth that I had I not been so adimant I may have not overcome the hurdles I faced along the way.

I am excited to share my journey with you, as well as future journeys regarding all of my favorite “B” words. Hope you enjoyed the first of many!


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